Your comment post should be
at least 320 words this week due Thursday by 11:59 pm (worth 70 points)
and you will be responsible for responding (respectfully) to one of your
classmates in at least a one paragraph reply entries by Sunday at 11:59 pm
(worth 30 points).
* If you were faced with ending a relationship because your
family and your girlfriend/ boyfriends family did not get along, would you end
it or stay together? Explain why or why not and be sure to use examples when
explaining and also relate it to Romeo and Juliet.
When it comes to situations with my family and friends I try to make everyone happy. But then I always want to try and make myself happy. If I was faced with a decision to stay or leave my relationship if our families didn’t get along then I would base it on how the relationship is. For example, if the relationship wasn’t going to good and we didn’t have anything in common then yeah I would leave the relationship for my family. But if the relationship was going good and we really wanted to be together then I would stay in that relationship. My family comes first but also I have to do what will make me happy and they should know that. I would try everything to make the situation stop. I wouldn’t just stop seeing my family I would just not bring him around. It shouldn’t be fair to me to have my family pick who I could date. Our families would just have to get over it and let us live the life we want to live. Our families don’t have to be in the same room 24/7. But if there is something like our wedding in the future than they should be there and try really hard to get along. Right there they should think about their child and how happy they are. Only one time in my life did my mom tell me I couldn’t date someone. That’s because our families were so close that if something happened then it would be awkward. And I understood that because he was a good friend and I didn’t want to lose him if we ever did break up. But if it was someone else that I really wanted to be with and loved then I wouldn’t listen to my mom I would do what made me happy. But in Romeo and Juliet their families hated each other but they still stayed together and did whatever if took just because they were in love.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your opinion. I liked how you related it to romeo and Juliet. I did that too. even though you said it would be okay for them to stay together you had valid reasons. great job!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DeleteAlyssa i agree with you. Its your choice on what you want to do. Also, good life example of when your mom said that you couldn't date someone because your families were close. You had good examples , and i liked your blog this week. Good job!
DeleteIf I was faced with an ending relationship because mine and my girl friends families did not get along it would make me mad. I think that the family’s opinion on each other should not matter because they are not the one in the relationship. If mine and the girl s family did not like each other I would probably break up with her because it might start a large or big family fight because we all have different opinions. It would be the best for both family’s do because family comes first. I would probably not have dated the girl from the family that my fam ily hates because I probably hate that family too. The only way I would date the girl is if she was really hot a k a Kate Upton. Most likely I would not date her though because no one is as hot as Kate upton. If the other family hated my family they would obviously hate me too and I am sure if they hate me and my family they would not let there daughter date me or anyone from my family. For example rom eo and Juliet. There families hate each other it is kind of like a family feud. Rom eo and Juliet did the opposite of what I would have done though. They did stay together even though there families hated each other. I disagree with both of there decisions greatly because they chose each other before choosing there family and I think that is wrong. With out your family you would not be where you are today. With out your parents, you would not even be here today so I think it is necessary for a person that likes a girl whose family hates your family to not date her because you most likely will start more problems for your self and your family and would you really want to do that.
ReplyDeleteColin you did a good job this week. You understood what you had to write about. You got all things she wanted to write about. everyone has different opinions and you explained yours right. I like when you started talking about yourself and a girl. Also you explained the story just right. your blogs every week are great and funny. good job!
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ReplyDeleteIf I was in a situation like this I would try to make everyone happy first, and see why they don’t like each other. I think many people will have a time like this come up in their life. They will have to make a decision that they may not want to make. It could go both ways for me actually; it depends on who I’m in the relationship with and why our families are fighting. For example, if they did end up getting into a fight I would have to try to stop the situation, I shouldn’t avoid my boyfriend because of it. That’s not right. I would need to see if I can fix it before I make any decisions like breaking up with him. Family is an important thing and everyone’s life; just certain things keep you from having a relationship with a guy or your family. Yeah, family comes first but I also have to make myself happy. If I’m not happy with this guy and neither is my family, that’s when I change what I am doing. I would keep seeing him if I liked him or I was in love with him, I’m going to go with what my heart desires. This quote relates to Romeo and Juliet in a big way. What Romeo and Juliet was basically about is these two people fall in love and they end up realizing that they’re families don’t get along. An example, is when Romeo and Juliet don’t even care about their families, they are going with what their heart is telling them. They are in love with each other, and in the end Romeo walks in and he thought Juliet was dead so he killed himself because he loved her so much. Romeo not realizing that Juliet was only sleeping and that she woke up and killed herself was a sign of true love. So in the end, it’s really your opinion on what you decide to do.
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DeleteI enjoyed reading your blog this week :) I think you did an amazing job. I liked when you said that everyone will have to make a decision that they may not want to make. I definently agree with that. Keep up the great work!!
Lillian, I really liked your blog this week. I loved how you said that you have to do what makes you happy and what your heart desires. I also liked the examples that you used. Last, I likes the example that you used about Romeo and Juliet. I'm sure they had their parents feelings in mind but they did what made them happy and they stayed together. Great job this week!
DeleteFamily feuds happen all the time. Whether it's because of land, jobs, wealth, or even success. Usually in these feuds , two families hate each other for certain reasons. One example could be if your dad keeps winning in a cooking contest, and your neighbors dad always gets 2nd place, then that could start a feud between the dads. Not only could a family feud be between two families, but it could be just a fight between your family. For example, if my mom and dad were fighting and got divorced, this could cause a feud between them.
ReplyDeleteIf I was faced with a situation where I was dating someone of the rival family, I wouldn't end the relationship. I say this because it's between certain people of your families, not between just you two. I feel like them fighting shouldn't get mixed up into your own personal business. If my family had a problem with that( which they probably would) I wouldn't care because I am happy with the relationship I have now with my boyfriend. I wouldn't just break up with them to make my family happy, because I want to be happy too. If my boyfriend says that we should break up because of it, then that's one thing, but I wouldn't be the one to break us up.
In certain situations my opinion may vary. I say this because if your boyfriend kills your dog, then you kinda have the right to be angry and have a family feud if you possibly sue them or take them to court, and all that nonsense.
In Romeo and Juliet, there are many examples that relate to the whole " break up or stay together" thing. One is that Juliet said " it doesn't matter what your last name is, you are who you are and not even a last name could change that." I totally agree with this because if your last name changed, you would still be yourself, with your own personality. Also, if someone really loves you, they wouldn't dump you just because of what your last name is, or what your families are going through.
Hey carlie! I totally adored your blog entry this week. I especially enjoyed your opening sentence; it was exquisite. I agree we countless things you said on regards of the blog entry for this week. In my opinion your happiness is definitely important as well. I love how you would do anything to be with your boyfriend, its adorable. I also loved when you said "if your boyfriend kills the dog.." I was laughing for 5 minutes; and im laughing while typing it ahahah. Your blog entry was amazing this week, I loved it and read it several times; and shared it with my mom. I can't wait to see your future posts; you're such and entertaining writer. :)
DeleteIf I were to ever have to face a situation where I would have to end a relationship with someone because my family and their family did not get along, I would do whatever makes myself happy. Usually in situations that include my family and friends, I try to do what makes everyone happy. However in a situation like this that includes someone I like, I will do what makes me happy. If I was ever put in a situation like this where my family wanted me to leave a relationship because they did not like the the person that I was in a relationship’s family I would have to decide on how the relationship is working out. For example, if the relationship was good and we both made each other happy, then I would stay with the person and our families would just have to look past the differences with each other and learn to get along. However, if the relationship was not going to good and we always fought and neither of us were really happy, then I would leave the relationship because there is no point in staying with someone that does not make you happy. My family would have to give me a true, valid reason on why I should leave the person that I am in the relationship with. For example, if the only reason that I should leave the person is because they do not like the family, I would not listen because that would not change how me and the other person feel about each other. But, if their reason is because we fight a lot and we are never happy, or something like that and I realized that it was true, that would be a good, valid reason for me to leave the person.
ReplyDeleteIn Romeo and Juliet, they do not care about any ones opinion about each other except for themselves. They do not let their family feud run their feelings for each other. They still love each other he rest of their lives.
Emilee, you're right being happy is the best decision. Nothing is more important than being happy and I'm glad you made that point, I completely forgot. Although family is more important than public and I'm sure Romeo and Juliet did care about their families opinions, but at first when they found out they are from different houses. You did great this week!
DeleteI do agree completely with your opinion. I think you should do whatever makes you happy. It is your life, not theirs. You can decide what you want.
DeleteWhen it comes to my family, I put them before anyone and anything. My family and I are extremely close, and I don't think there is any other family like mine. My grandma had 6 daughters and 2 sons. She was also remarried which also means I have a few step aunts! There are over 100 of us, which I think is pretty amazing. Since we are all so close, and all of my cousins are fairly older then me, and are all in relationships or married; we are always excepting to another in our family. We're crazy Italians, and when we are all together its hilarious. If I was faced with ending a relationship because my family and boyfriend didn't get along, we would definitely stay together. In my opinion know one can tell you who you do and don't love; or who you can and can't be with. If I am finally happy with someone who treats me like a princess, would do anything to keep me smiling, and takes my breath away with everything he says then I am going to be with them regardless; that's why I've spent a year and 5 months with my boyfriend currently. <3 Another reason why I think my boyfriend and I wouldn't break up over a family disagreement, is because in time they will except that he is an important part of my life, and he makes me happy and that's what matters. Last, the blog entry this week is difficult for me to relate to because my family cares about my feelings. They know that I've been sad for awhile; and when I finally met the man I am currently with they saw a side of me that I* didn't even know was apart of me anymore. They know that I'm finally happy again, and they wouldn't do anything to jeopardize that. My relationship with my boyfriend can be related to Romeo and Juliet because we are also star cross lovers; we were destined to meet. I think this because we were both in a really bad point in life when we met and we saved each other. I know I'm young, and forever isn't promised; but for the time I do have I want to spend with him. I think my relationship is also like Romeo and Juliet because we would die for each other. I couldn't even picture my life without him because he makes me feel so alive. He makes every day better then the last and worth living. He taught me how to be happy again, and how to love. If there was a conflict between my boyfriend and my family I wouldn't allow it to break us up, I would do everything and anything to make it work, because I cant picture my life without him.
ReplyDeletePersonally, it all depends on the person. If my family did not approve of who I was dating, I would look at the reasons why. If they have valid reasons to not like him I would understand, if that meant I should not like him then I would probably end it. If I really liked him, and the reasons weren't valid, or a big deal, I would stay with him. Family should be on your side no matter what, if I really liked him, they will put their differences aside and understand. Just like Juliet's father said, Romeo is a good kid, and that he didn't mind that he was in his house. He set the differences aside because he has nothing against Romeo. I don't think you'd mind much of Juliet and Romeo wound up together. He seems to not really care that Romeo was in the other house anyway, like they were going to stop fighting anyway. I'm sure they're all sick of fighting, and I don't think anyone would stop Romeo and Juliet from being together. Anyone who has been in love wouldn't stop someone from being in love no matter what the consequences, differences, cons are.
ReplyDeleteKayla, great job on your blog this week! Me and you basically have the same exact opinion on this, so I completely agree with you. I also thought they would put their differences aside. If Juliet's parents don't mind why should anybody else care? Again, great job this week. :)
DeleteTo be completely honest, if my family did not like my partner's family I would need to know exactly why. If the reasons were idiotic and immature, there's no way I would leave somebody who makes me happy. Being happy is an extremely important thing and I would hope that my family would be understanding enough to realize that my happiness may be a little more important than a silly family feud. If they had good reasons, if the opposite family had done something to hurt any of my family members in a huge way, I would definitely leave the person I was with. I don't "enjoy" when people disrupt my family's way of life. I would also hope that each family was mature enough to keep the children out of it. Why would you have a fight and involve your kids? That's the most immature thing of all, that's uncalled for. No kid deserves to be put in that situation. Having to hate somebody because your parents do? Nonsense. In Romeo & Juliet, both of the families are extremely immature. Putting your kids in a position where basically if they're together one of them will be killed? Absolutely ridiculous. A child's happiness should come before a parent in their mind; at least I believe that.
ReplyDeleteGreat job on the blog this week. I really agreed with you when you said that family feuds are extremely immature. I also agreed when you said that the families shouldn't get their kids involved, kids don't deserve to be in a situation like that. Finally, I also believe that a child's happiness should come before the parents in their mind. Keep up the good work.
DeleteI agree completely with your blog because if they just wanted you guys to break up for no reason that's not a good reason. They should be happy that their kid is in love. Finally, I think that happiness is the key to everything.
DeleteWhenever I am in a bad situation with some friends or family, I always try to make the best of it. I want everyone to be happy with the end result. Although, You need to always make yourself happy first. When it comes to my happiness being in jeopardy because of one dumb little disagreement between families or even friends, I want to make sure that I'm happy first. If I was ever in the situation when I was in love with a guy, but our families were enemies, I would just keep the relationship going. If the guy was good to me, and he made me happy, It would all be worth it. I would not care if my parents were mad about it, I would want them to put aside their petty differences and think about our happiness. That is what families and real friends do. If they really cared about our happiness, they would let us be together. I think that holding grudges against other people is just completely childish and stupid. I believe it would be best for everyone if the feud was just broken. Feuds are not healthy, they just hurt the people within it. If I was ever in the situation of being in love with a boy who's family was feuding with mine, I would still stay with the guy. If my parents wanted us apart, they would have to give reasons that didn't involve the feud. In Romeo and Juliet, the families are trying to keep them apart just because of a feud that has been going on for many years. Though, the people who started the feud are probably dead by then, they are still keeping it going with their kids, so the feud carries on and on. It's kind of like a large snowball rolling down the mountain. It is getting bigger and is taking out everyone in its path and it won't be good in the end. Romeo and Juliet were so madly in love that they couldn't even live without each other. They had died in the end but their love lived on.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. I like that you said that if your family cared about you then they would get over the grudge the families have and be friends.
ReplyDeleteIf I was forced to break up with my boyfriend because our family doesn’t get along I would keep the relationship on the low but I would still stay with him. That’s only if I truly love him because im not going to ruin my families trust towards me just to stay with him if he doesn’t really mean anything to me. My families trust means the world to me if I didn’t have their trust I don’t know what I would do, I would probably get upset a lot and try to forget about it. If I did break up with my boyfriend that I would love so much I would be broken , torn into pieces. But I would still have my families trust and in my family that’s the most important thing. Even though I would’ve broken his heart into a thousand pieces ,I would feel like such a jerk. Like in Romeo and Juliet we would both probably kill ourselves just to be with one another and if that didn’t happen I would never marry another person because I would be so in love with him we would be the so called “ star cross lovers” . My family wouldn’t force me to marry anyone anyway like how Juliet’s father was forcing her into marrying Paris . I would end up dying of heartbreak being with some one you love someone so much and your with them and the next minute not being able to do any of that. Even if our families really hated each other I feel like they would both be alright with us being together if they really love us they wouldn’t care if we were together they should be proud that we found someone that we are in love with. That’s what our families should look forward to that seeing us get married to some one that we love so much and live happily ever after.
ReplyDeleteIf I was faced with ending my relationship over a family feud, I wouldn’t end it. I wouldn’t because I don’t have a problem with him or his family. I don’t think any family should make somebody separate over something little and has nothing to do with them. For example Romeo has no problems with the Capulet’s. He would still walk around Verona and be polite to everyone he sees. Just like Juliet she is aware that the two family’s don’t like each other but she isn’t rude to anyone. Once they found out about each other being a Montague and a Capulet they still wanted to be with each other. They still loved eachother for them and didn’t despise one another because of their last names.
ReplyDeleteIf I were faced with ending a relationship because your family and your girlfriend/ boyfriends family did not get along I would not do it. I would try to resolve the problem. Every thing that has a problem has a solution it may be harder than other solutions but I could definitely have a solution for this. If I were in Romeos position I would ask why the two families hated each other and they would say because a while ago…….. exactly those are people that live generations ago they mean nothing when it come to the world today except for the last name. the great Spartan and Athenian armies were arech enimies but eventually they cam together to be on of the most fierce armies to ever live and they anialated the whole other Persian army. They were nemesis and they came together to be one. I think that these two families need to stop antagonizing Ech other and just get over it. The figiting need to just stop. Just because of two names, the two people that god or the creator put together can not be in love. Sometimes the name is just a symbol not a virtue. I would do all of this because if two people love each other then they should have the right to be together. The contradiction should not be some thing that two people should have to worry about when they ere thinking about getting married. Also I think that if the family really cared about that person that they would get over it because they would care about that persons future. It not like romeos a bad guy. Juliets father even said he is good guy. I think that if mabey Juliet was just a litte more honest about it It would have not been such a problem for the familes of romeo and juliet
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