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* If you were faced with ending a relationship because your
family and your girlfriend/ boyfriends family did not get along, would you end
it or stay together? Explain why or why not and be sure to use examples when
explaining and also relate it to Romeo and Juliet.
If I had this happening to me I would stay with my girlfriend. I think that the families should put their differences aside for the kids so they can be happy if they really like each other. I think that parents shouldn't hate each other because it can cause problems with the kids and their relationship and stress them out. It’s just like romeo and juliet but what I read was how her dad didn't have a problem with them being two different families even though that their family had problems. Like right now me and my girlfriend are having a long distance relationship but our families don’t hate each other. If i go back with my actually family I wont be able to see my girlfriend but i thought if that happened i wouldn't care i would still be with her because thats what people do when they care they sacrifice their time for them, trusting she won’t lie to me or cheat. I just feel that its wrong if the parents don’t let them date because the parents don’t like each other like give them a chance to be with each other. The only way I could see this even happening is if they were two different religions and they couldn’t date because they were completely opposites of each other. I feel that romeo and juliet though took it to the next level when they killed themselves for each other like live on for that person maybe they knew you guys couldn't date and wanted to be with someone else to be happy. If i was a parent in this situation i would let the kids date because thats what you would want to be done with you if you were still a kid. I hate it when kids are brought into a parent problem and they get stressed out. This is what i think about this blog and how i feel.
ReplyDeleteI understand what yyou are saying , we shouldn't be stressed. we are too young too be stressed out .
Deleteif I had too be forced too break up for somebody cause there family didn't get along, im not sure what I would do . I guess if I was madly in love with them I wouldn't . we would sneak around but I would never kill myself over a boy. but I mean I would also think my parents are so selfish. cause they found love and now sense they don't like somebody does that mean I cant either. that would be unfair , it would be like my mom is teaching me how too be a follower. I wouldn't be independent and I would feel bad. it is stupid and immature too put there kids threw that stuff. love is love and you cant help who you fall in love with.
ReplyDeleteIf I was dating someone from a family that my own family was fighting with, I think that I would continue to date them. The reason I would is because even though my family hates theirs, it doesn't mean that I have to hate the person that i'm dating as well. Even if my parents hated their parents, if that person made me happy, I would continue to be with them because I enjoy having that person around. If this were to ever happen to me, I know that at least one of my parents would understand what I was going through and allow me to continue to date that person though. I understand that some parents would not allow that because it is for the benefit of the person, but what if you really loved this person and you weren't allowed to be with them because of a little feud? If I loved someone that much and my parents did not like the other family, I would probably try to do the thing that Romeo and Juliet did where Romeo snuck out to see Juliet. Even though my parents would disapprove with what I am doing, if we truly loved each other, it would be worth it. This can relate to Romeo and Juliet because even though their families hated each other with a passion, they still loved each other and wanted to be together despite the feud between their families. Also, Romeo would sneak out to see Juliet and they would talk even though they could get caught at any moment. Another example would be when Romeo and Juliet both killed themselves so they could be together. Now I would never go as far as to kill myself to be with someone I love, but when they both died, their parents stopped fighting because of their actions. I think they went a little too far when they killed themselves because that was the only way they could be together. If i was one of the parents in this situation, I would let the kids date because if they think they found their true love then what would I be to take it away from them. This is what I think the blog means.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Alexis! I would continue dating the person that im dating. Just because they don't like their family doesn't mean anything. If you're happy then your parents should respect that!
DeleteAfter reading your comment from the blog I have to say I do agree with you. I agree with you because the reason you gave on how you would still stay with that person was true. And it is true because you should always be with people who make you happy and nothing can't take that apart from you. Therefore I also like how you took out examples from Romeo and Juliet and related it with your reasons on how you would still stay with that person. Anyway I really do actually agree with your blog comment.
DeleteIn Romeo and Juliet they were ripped apart because their parents had a family feud going on, but they didn't let that stop them.They would find ways to see each other. Their love for each other was like no others they would rather end their lives than not be with each other. If I liked a guy and my family was in a fight with his i have no clue how i would react or what i would do. My mom was able to fall in love once or twice and so did my dad. It depends on how much I like the person, but I probably wouldn't listen to them. We don't deserve to suffer just because of their feud, especially if i love that person. If this guy makes me happy then i should be able to be with him even if they are against us, because we deserve to have a chance with each other. By them telling us not to be together because they our families hate each other is like basically asking us to resent them. To try to tell us that our feelings can not be is crazy. I personally don't think i would ever kill myself over a guy, but then again i'm not in love with anyone and haven't been. Love is very powerful so for all i know how i feel then could be so strong to make me fell that i cant live with out them, and that's how Romeo and Juliet felt. If my mom forced me not to be with someone because of the family differences i would probably ignore her and stay with them. She and no one has a right to try to take my feelings and throw them away because of their problems. If i got forced to leave the person i truly cared about I would probably feel empty, helpless, and depressed. That's why I would need to stay with that person. I've experienced break ups and obviously they hurt, but to imagine being forced to never be allowed to be with someone you care about would tear me apart.
ReplyDeleteIf i was dating someone and my girlfriends family hates my family I would not break up with her. One reason is because It's my happiness not there's. I say this because it's not fair that my family won't let date the girl I love because they hate them. I should be able to date her because not to be selfish it what makes that person whose in love happy. Your parents shouldn't interfere with what makes you happy. If anything they should support you. Second if your parents still don't support try to do what Romeo and Juliet did. Just find time to be together and spend time together. Just don't go over board and try to end your life. If things don't work out if your old enough leave together and just live a life. But spending an hour with the girl you love is by far better then spending no time together. Lastly your parents grew up already and they all lived their life. Just because there is a feud between your families it doesn't mean you can't live a life without your girl. Those are the reason why I would still go out with a girl even our families hate each other.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your blog. I agree with you because I believe the same thing. just because my family does not like somebody does not mean I cant like them too.
DeleteI agree with you. You shouldn't stop dating somebody because of your families. If things don't work together you can run away and live a new life. Your family shouldn't interfere at all with it.
DeleteI agree with you Ish, I agree with you because our parents already fell in love, they had already lived there life. So with them trying to make you stop dating your girlfriend just because they don't get along is hypocritical because if the roles were reversed they would have wanted or have probably did exactly what we want and for them to try and break you and your girlfriend up is just not right
DeleteI would definitely not stop dating the other person. In today’s age people are more independent and believe in fairness and do not obey their parents if what they are being told is wrong. Also I do not think families should have ancient family rivalries like in Romeo and Juliet. In Romeo and Juliet, the grudge was so old no one even remembered why they were angry.
ReplyDeleteI would continue to see my boyfriend while explaining to my parents that hate is wrong and love is a good thing and that this new relationship, it could be a way to end the long held grudge with a forgotten beginning. I would also explain that I am not dating the other person to hurt my parents or dishonor my family, it is simply because we care about each other as human beings.
I would also encourage my boyfriend to do the same even though we both realize that our relationship may not last forever, it is more the principle of the thing and standing up for what you believe in and for yourself and the other person that you love. It is an important life lesson that you should not break especially just starting out in life. I would hope to be able to keep my boyfriend while not losing my family.
Romeo and Juliet chose each other over their families but the ultimate decision that they made was very tragic and cost them both their lives. While they chose each other and had a plan to be together it failed in a very tragic way. I think it is because they decided to sneak around and not be honest and face the problem head on. But they were very young and did not have the strength necessary to stand up to their powerful families. Also in the time that the story is written, I do not think that people were as forgiving and open minded and things were much stricter so they probably felt like did not have any other choice.
I agree with molly because she says that hate is a bad thing and love is a good thing. And also I agree with her because she explains that if that happened that she wouldn't be dating that person to hurt her family but because she cares about the other. In conclusion, I agree with molly because I have the same opinion on the matter.
DeleteIf I was dating someone from a family that my own family was fighting with I would stay with the girl. I wouldn't leave them. We would find ways to see each other and still be together. I should be able to date her and not worry about my family. I shouldn't just brake up with a girl because there family doesn't like my family. It shouldn't interfere with us dating. You shouldn't worry about anything else like your family's fighting. They should support you. They shouldn't fight. Even if they really hate each other they should still show support. If I love the person and they love me back we shouldn't just stop loving each other. If they don't want you to see each other you should stick up for your self. Don't let them ruin your relationship or make you unhappy. In The book Romeo and Juliet they come from two different families. They meet at a party and feel in love with each other at first sight. The families never got along. They didn't want Romeo and Juliet seeing each other at all. They tried to see each other as much as they could. They would not stop seeing each other because their family hates each other. They are going to make it work. At the end when Romeo and Juliet killed them selfs the families signed a peace treaty because they both died.
ReplyDeleteI agree with jared. Just becasue of a family fued doesnt mean your family has to interfere. You love somebody weather it be an enemy or not. You love somebody your family should suck it up and live with it. If they dont then you stick up for yourself.
DeleteIf I faced with ending a relationship because your family and my girlfriend's family did not get along, there are going to be so many people that are going to hate me for this but I would end the relationship. In my opinion, the longer the relationship lasts the more chaos that is soon to come to many people. The Romeo and Juliet film we watched in class, it showed at the very beginning that both Montagues and Capulets hated each others soul. At the market, they fought to the death because one of the people in the crowd got mad at the Capulets and pulled out a sword which led to straight up chaos. If I was in a relationship during the hatred between both families, they are going to break out in even more chaos when they find out that I was dating a Capulet. It is already hard trying to explain to your parents that you are dating someone now, but if both families hate each other with their soul well then they are going to have a rough time getting their approval. I do understand that Romeo and Juliet loved each other but if the relationship has to be kept a secret for longer than 2 months than you're screwed. I personally would end the relationship because things will go down a lot faster than you would think. If you don't end the relationship you will be too much in love with the person and it will be impossible to live without them. Plus, parents are mad if you are in a relationship and you did not mention it to them at all. So imagine the amount of Montagues and Capulets are going to be mad at Romeo and Juliet for dating each other that no one else is aware of except them selves. Both of the families will battle like crazy and will rip each other to shreads.
ReplyDeletei disagree with you , because that if think that the longer you stay together the more chaos its not true it depends one the people. Its the true side of who you are when you break up with someone .
DeleteWhat would i do if the families intervened in my relationship? Well i would definitly not break up with her. If you are in love you are in love. You cant let anybody else tell you what to do when it comes to love. You must alwaysfollow your heart. In Romeo and juliet even though there parents dont agree. they still see each other behind there parents back. They where told one thing but instead they followed there hearts and true love. Also if ut gets really out of hand you just run away and if she really truely loves you she will follow you. She will go with you and speand her life with you. So parents dont have says in love. When it comes to true love we are going to do what we want to do anyway. No matter what our parents say. That is what i would do if i was told to break up with a girl over a family fued.
ReplyDeleteIf I were in a situation that I had to choose whether to stay with my girlfriend even if our family’s hated each other I would say yes. The reason why I say yes is because it doesn’t matter if our families’ hates each other because it only matters if you are happy and love the person with all your heart. Do you ever think that your parents wouldn’t like your lover’s family? Think again. It happened to mo my older brother because his girlfriend’s parents were completely insane. For a example she wasn’t able to stay out after 12 a.m. and by the way she was 19 and out of school. But that didn’t stop my parents to stop them going out. But in “Romeo and Juliet” it seems that Juliet’s dad does not care that Romeo at the party so I would assume that he wouldn’t care that his daughter his dating him and he also thinks that Romeo is a true gentleman. But if that has ever happened to me I would still go out with my girlfriend. But the main reason why is that the only thing that ,my parents care about is that I’m happy and safe. Even if I said, “ Jesus is a dumb bearded weirdo that smells like barf and wine and Satan is the true savor of our Earth.” My mom would be happy of my decision but she wouldn’t care because im not harming anything or anyone or myself and I’m happy. I remember when I went to go see my first metal show. It was one of the most violent bands out at the time and I was going to a bar near Camden or Trenton I don’t remember but anyways, she did not want me to go but she let me go because she knew that if she didn’t I would have bin so miserable. But trust me if she doesn’t want me todo something she makes sure that I don’t. she would have her eyes on me like a hawk. So that’s what I think of this question.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you Michael because its your happiness not your parents. An in Romeo and Juliet, Juliet's father might not care that she's dating Romeo like you said because her father said that Romeo was a good boy.
DeleteI agree with mike because she says that hate is a bad thing and love is a good thing. And also I agree with her because she explains that if that happened that she wouldn't be dating that person to hurt her family but because she cares about the other. In conclusion, I agree with molly because I have the same opinion on the matter.
DeleteWhen dating someone you have to introduce them to your family, and also find out if your family liked your boyfriend/girlfriend.Especially when you're a girl and you have to introduce your boyfriend to your dad. Dads are always strict on dating. If i was faced with having to ending a relationship because my boyfriend and my family do not get along i would still stay with my boyfriend. Just because my family doesn't like my boyfriend doesn't mean i have to not like them. I have my own likes and dislikes. Everyone has there own opinions and actions. If someone doesn't like the person you're dating why should you have to not date them because someone else doesn't like them. Even when you're older you get more responsible and start making your own decisions.In romeo and juliet, they both love eachother. Even as much as they love each other they are from two different families. They both still loved each other. They didn't care about their family conflicts. As long as they were together in love then it didn't matter. Thats how i would take it. Just ignore what other people think. Their opinions don't matter to you as long as you're happy. Be you and do you. In conclusion, if i was ever faced with my parents not liking my boyfriend i wouldn't care for their opinion because i am my own person with own choices.
ReplyDeleteIf I was faced with either ending a relationship or continuing it because my girlfriend didn’t get along with my family, I would try to continue it at first. To start, I would try to find similarities between them. Like if my girlfriend liked the Knicks and my family likes the Knicks I would start a conversation about the Knicks to hopefully spark a positive conversation between them so they could start getting along. Anyway though, I wouldn’t end the relationship. I wouldn’t end the relationship because at the end of the day it is my life that I am living and not theirs. If she honestly makes me happy then I wouldn’t end it because they don’t get along. Yeah, it would be a little hard considering she would be coming over for holidays and weekends, and I wouldn’t want them breathing down each other’s throats the whole entire time. I would do the same thing that Romeo and Juliet did in “Romeo and Juliet” and I don’t mean killing myself over someone. I would never ever kill myself over a girl. There’s no point to. What I was referring to doing was sneaking out to see each other and other stuff, like how Romeo snuck out to see Juliet because she is a Capulet and he is a Montague. I find that ridiculous that my family would expect me to not be with someone I love just because they don’t get along. I find that kind of weird because if they were in our shoes, they would want to be able to see and be with that person no matter what their parents said. So the idea of them wanting me and my girlfriend to break up because they don’t really get along is preposterous. But if this were to really happen, I would stay together with my girlfriend because at the end of the day it matters if I’m happy and not them.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you X. Because it is your life. And it doesn't make sense because they are adults they should act mature to come together and forgive each other. Plus there is no point to hate the girl because usually everyone acts different in both the families.
DeleteIf you were faced with ending a relationship because your family and your girlfriend/ boyfriends family did not get along, would you end it or stay together? If my Family did not like my girlfriend those people weren't really my family i always thought true family cared for you no matter what it like how at first juliet's mom was all for getting married but her father wanted her to wait the dad noticed that his little girl was growing up would you want your daughter to get married to someone she doesn't know i wouldn't i can't have the pressure of constantly knowing that i ruined her life because we didn't lie who she had so we took care of it . NO!!!!!! You should never do that not if you hate your family. And as well vise-versa if my girlfriend did not like my family she never truly cared for me because if you you truly care for someone you wouldn't have to deal with the family or ask him not to see his family you would suck it up and deal because every couple deserves a healthy relationship with the family . would you stop seeing your family the ones who have been there for you through thick and thin and has always cared for you no matter what, over a girl of you would you have issues because no one should have to make you choose love over family. i would chose family because family was always there for you but what you're going to run away with someone because you think you love them and that their the only important thing in the world. But sooner or later you're going to find out its a different feeling you felt it was lust. romeo and Juliet ran away and got marry in less than a week and it wasn't love they felt it was lust , lust can blind you make you think that you love the person but you truly just love the body that's the only reason you noticed one another is because you had this heat for each other but you never felt it before you thought it was love but your head wasn't listening to your heart. 372 words
ReplyDeleteIf I was faced with ending a relationship because my family and my girlfriends family did not get along, i wouldn't end it. I wouldn't end the relationship because the definition of relationship is “the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected” to me this means you and your girlfriend, wife, fiancee, whatever the case may be are connected in ways that others don't understand, Meaning, you love your girlfriend for reasons others can't see and you love them not only for the perfections but also for their flaws. And I believe just because your families don't get along doesn't mean that you guys can't get along. People cannot choose their family and they cannot control who their family likes and dislikes. Although, I believe that you should always stick to your family and always have your families back love is a very powerful thing and can really change people. I think that if you truly love someone/something, you should never let anything come between what you love. For example, if i was in love with a girl and i would do anything for her i would not let my family tell me i couldn't see her and i would do anything to see her. In Romeo and Juliet, They do everything in their power to see each other. When Romeo and Juliet found out their families were fighting with each other, They were in awe that they just kissed and they were shocked that they love the only thing they were raised to hate. But even though they were shocked they still loved each other and still found ways to make it work out. This means a lot and proves nothing can come between true love. People always say that if you do love something you will let it go but i was taught to always go after what you love and believe in.
ReplyDeleteIf I was faced with ending a relationship because my family and my boyfriends family did not get along, I would probably stay together, but thats if I really loved the boy and the boy loves me. In did other hand if the relationship was like Romeo and Juliet I would hundred percent end it. Therefore lets look at it as the first statement I typed as, in which I would stay together ,(thats if I really loved the boy and the boy loves me) even though my family and his family don’t get along so well . I would stay together because if I truly loved someone with all my heart I would not let anything or anyone take me and my love one apart. An example for this would be in one of the stories of Harry Potter,and thats when Remus and Tonks falled in love with each other and this is an example because there age were not at all close and Remus wasn’t really fully a human because he was a wolf at midnight, at first all this did matter to Remus but later he realize it shouldn’t matter at all, because he saw what matter the most was how they both felt for each other and nothing shouldn’t keep them apart at all and also because Tonks told him that she didn’t really care if there ages weren’t close at all or if he became a wolf at midnight because she truly loved him .Anyway another reason why I would stay together is because no one can’t make the decision for who I should be with or not, it has to come from my mind and my heart as well. And if they can’t deal with my choices than its there problem and it shouldn’t have to matter because its my choices I’m making for my life. And this reason relates to Romeo and Juliet because they both chose to be together and what their family told them to do didn't matter at all because what truly matter to them was there love for each other, even though it led them both to death. It was there life choice they chose to make. Therefore this is what I would have done if my family and my boyfriends family did not get along and also some of the reasons and examples.
ReplyDeleteIf I was faced with ending a relationship because my family and my girlfriends/boyfriends families did not get along I would not end my relationship with them. I would try to get through it and see if the families will change their minds. If you’re really in love with someone that much then nothing would tear you apart. You would try to get through whatever was happening. Another reason why I would stay with the person is because you may need that person through a hard time or a happy time. You may want to spend your life with them. If your families either don’t like each other or are fighting I don’t think it should matter at that point, it really only matters how you, yourself feels about the person. If you’re actually in love then it shouldn’t matter if your families are feuding. Romeo and Juliet’s families are feuding but it doesn’t matter to them. They still continue to love each other but they do respect that their families don’t like each other. Romeo goes to Friar Lawerance and asks if he could marry Juliet. In this movie age doesn't matter, it's about how their life will be. I like that if you really like someone then again age shouldn't matter but your family can matter.
ReplyDeleteThe problem that I see with the story of Romeo and Juliet is a lack of communication between the children and parents, and lack of communication between the two families.
ReplyDeleteI think I would stay with my girlfriend even though our families disagreed because it might solve the problem with the two families. If they had stayed together and remained alive, the couple would have had more power to resolve the conflict between the two families.
In Romeo and Juliet case they didn’t even try to consult with their parents. Due to this lack of communication, it led both to their deaths. Even though their deaths stopped the fighting between the Capulets and Montagues, was it really worth two lives over a fight?
When Romeo and Juliet fell in love, they could have consulted with their parents to discuss their relationship and marriage. If I were in their shoes, I would have tried to talk to my own family first, and then my girlfriend’s family about our feelings.
A life means something when a family crisis is in place. The life means more than the conflict at hand. For example, one person decides to try to commit suicide, members on both sides of families would come together to stop it.
If I were faced with ending a relationship because my family and girlfriend did not get along depending on how much I cared for that person I would probably stay with them. A reason why is that because if I truly was in "love" with this person my parents or families opinion on this person should not affect that. Another reason is that when or if I get married with this person my wife will not be with my mom and dad or the rest of my family. The only time they would probably ever see her would be at family events such as Winter holiday or other holiday times. Also i rather date someone that I find attractive or that I love and not date someone just because my family approves of them. Also much later on in life if I decided to have kids I rather have kids with someone I love and not someone my family says is acceptable to have. This can relate to Romeo and Juliet because Romeo and Juliet had this same problem until they died. Even before there whole relationship Romeo and Juliette's families despised each other. The Montiques and the Capulets have been at each other for practically centuries. Obviously when they started to "go out" or date that started a big family feud against the two families. So by going out or dating they were going against there families wishes and they decided to stay together. They loved each other so much and wanted to stay with each other that they toke the ultimate sacrifice wish of of course there own lives and they toke there own lives just to "stay together." At the end of Romeo and Juliet the families do make up finally! Sadly not after they find there two kids dead.
ReplyDeleteIf I was dating someone from a family that my own family was fighting with, I think that I would continue to date them. The reason I would is because even though my family hates theirs, it doesn't mean that I have to hate the person that i'm dating as well. Even if my parents hated their parents, if that person made me happy, I would continue to be with them because I enjoy having that person around. If this were to ever happen to me, I know that at least one of my parents would understand what I was going through and allow me to continue to date that person though. I understand that some parents would not allow that because it is for the benefit of the person, but what if you really loved this person and you weren't allowed to be with them because of a little feud? If I loved someone that much and my parents did not like the other family, I would probably try to do the thing that Romeo and Juliet did where Romeo snuck out to see Juliet. Even though my parents would disapprove with what I am doing, if we truly loved each other, it would be worth it. This can relate to Romeo and Juliet because even though their families hated each other with a passion, they still loved each other and wanted to be together despite the feud between their families. Also, Romeo would sneak out to see Juliet and they would talk even though they could get caught at any moment. Another example would be when Romeo and Juliet both killed themselves so they could be together. Now I would never go as far as to kill myself to be with someone I love, but when they both died, their parents stopped fighting because of their actions. I think they went a little too far when they killed themselves because that was the only way they could be together. If i was one of the parents in this situation, I would let the kids date because if they think they found their true love then what would I be to take it away from them. This is what I think the blog means.
ReplyDeleteIf I was dating someone from a family that my own family was fighting with, I think that I would continue to date them. The reason I would is because even though my family hates theirs, it doesn't mean that I have to hate the person that i'm dating as well. Even if my parents hated their parents, if that person made me happy, I would continue to be with them because I enjoy having that person around. If this were to ever happen to me, I know that at least one of my parents would understand what I was going through and allow me to continue to date that person though. I understand that some parents would not allow that because it is for the benefit of the person, but what if you really loved this person and you weren't allowed to be with them because of a little feud? If I loved someone that much and my parents did not like the other family, I would probably try to do the thing that Romeo and Juliet did where Romeo snuck out to see Juliet. Even though my parents would disapprove with what I am doing, if we truly loved each other, it would be worth it. This can relate to Romeo and Juliet because even though their families hated each other with a passion, they still loved each other and wanted to be together despite the feud between their families. Also, Romeo would sneak out to see Juliet and they would talk even though they could get caught at any moment. Another example would be when Romeo and Juliet both killed themselves so they could be together. Now I would never go as far as to kill myself to be with someone I love, but when they both died, their parents stopped fighting because of their actions. I think they went a little too far when they killed themselves because that was the only way they could be together. If i was one of the parents in this situation, I would let the kids date because if they think they found their true love then what would I be to take it away from them. This is what I think the blog means.
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